Do you Understand Him?
Hi ladies, are you currently dating
a man, and you get the feeling he is afraid of any commitment? Some men are
easy-going and could comfortably
settling down with a woman they like, and for others it can make them
run a mile! Why is it that he is feeling this way? Here are some of the reasons
that account for why men may feel uneasy to commit in a relationship.
The Details:
There's a third party. Hopefully this is not the case, but it cannot be ruled out
that he may have a third party on his mind, leaving him
confused about the type of future he wants for both of you. It may also be the
case that he has not gotten over his ex partner making it hard to commit to
you.
He's distracted by other priorities. He needs to strive a balance out everything-
work, family, and friends. If he perceives that he needs to accord
priority in other areas of his life that require more time, then it is natural that
will come first and he will think of you second.
He is waiting for his close friends to
commit first. Most
men will ultimately want to commit, but he may want his friends to take the
first step out, as he does not want to feel as if he misses out on anything
with his single friends.
He's feeling pressured by you. You're in his ear about it
all the time and it's really getting to him. If he wants to commit to you, then
allow him to get to that stage on his own. If you constantly bring it up, he
may become upset with you and push him further away.
Loss of free time. He likes time to himself and to do
his own thing. Serious relationships take up an enormous amount of time and
energy and he doesn't want that kind of pressure.
You Don't Respect Him For Who He Is
Right Now.
If you don't
respect and love him for who he is right now, then what will things be like in
a few years from now? In a decade? He has his own dreams and aspirations about
what the future holds and if you don't seem like you are supportive of those,
then it can raise an alarm bell that might be causing him not to want to commit
further to you.
He needs time to nurture his history. When you understand his past relationships and childhood history, then
you may know why he is not ready to commit to you. He could be swearing off new
relationships because he needs time to heal the pain that was caused by a
previous breakup. You may need to give him a little
extra time until he feels comfortable in his new relationship with you.
He hasn't matured yet. Women can take a little shorter time to grow up than men. It
takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the point of commitment, and he
may not be ready yet. An immature man is not comfortable to consider the wants
and needs of others above his own.
The Implication:
Sometime it can be difficult to read
men, and hard to know what it is they really want. They prefer to let the
relationship just fall into place naturally. If you think you and your
boyfriend are really to move in together, or talk about marriage, then find a
time to discuss with him gently, discover what it is he wants and where you
stand in your relationship. Make sure you don't talk at him and
ensure the conversation is light and friendly, and you may be happy at how he
opens up to you!
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Love
Goh Kian Huat
Goh Kian Huat
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